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Osho: Love and Friendliness

I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with some water and held it before me, and said this: "You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love."

This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to possess it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds.This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...they try to possess it, they demand, they expect... and just like the latter spilling out of your hand, love will retrace from you .

For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings.

1. Give and don't expect.

2. Advise, but don't order.

3. Ask, but never demand.

It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring."

Passing thought... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take; but by the moments that take our breath away....

"TEAM WORK", the word which most banks uses now a days very frequently to motivate the staff. But there are some points which they have to overcome.  Otherwise they can not win in the GAME of business.

Consider a Cricket Team for example.  There will be 11 players, always.  And some extra players, to play in the absence of any one or more of these 11 players due to fitness problem, health problem, injury etc.,

And in these extra players, some batsmen, some bowlers, and atleast one wicket keeper will be there (depends).

Why are they doing so?  Are they mad to keep the extra players Idle, while these 11 players are playing, and to give match fee?  Not at all.  Their main intention is there shouldn't be any effect on the NUMBER of players and in turn on the team strength and team work.

But in case of Banks, the management always tells about team work.  But they never give EXTRA staff or atleast SUFFICIENT staff.  They always give SHORT staff and in that some people will be on leave or taking weekly off (in case of seven days banking branches).  That time the others has to take care of the work of the absentees also.

Ultimately the customer service is getting effected.  Management simply says, "Adjust for a day or two, then it will be all right after that".  But they are not understanding how the customer service is becoming poor with less staff.

And one more thing is cricket TEAM consists of all type of players always, batamen, bowlers, wicket keepers.  Some are special in batting, some can do only bowling well and some are specialists in wicket keeping.  Their MAIN job is that only.  You can not expect a batsman, who knows only batting, to do fast bowling.  Similarly you can not ask and expect  a bowleer who knows only bowling to do opening batting and to do a century.

Similarly in banks also all are not suitable for all types of jobs.  Some are good for General Banking, Some are good for Marketing, Some are good at Credit, Some are good at IT etc.,

Bank has to recruit specialists for each post seperately.  But they are simply recruiting staff for General Banking and after that giving other works, which these staff can not do at all, like marketing, which requires special skills like speaking well etc.,

I don't know when will these people change....

... for others' feelings as their feelings depends on their mental status and their way of looking at things/incidents.

If someone feels bad or sad about our actions / words / behaviour / decisions, it is not our mistake at all.  It's completely their choice whether to think about us (negatively) and distrube thier mind or to leave it or take it positively.

As I read in a book, "We can actually hurt people only physically, but not psychologically".

e.g.,

There was a small tree beside the road at the end of the village.  One night: (a) one thief seen it while going on that route and thought that may be a police (b) one young boy seen it and thought that is his lover waiting there. and (c) a small boy seen it and though that may be a devil.

It is not the mistake of the tree at all for their feelings.

We often hear, "your father is feeling bad becoz you have done this / you have not done that", "he will feel bad if you won't attend his party / function", "it won't loook good if it happens like this".,   etc.,

Ignore all those words and do what you want (feel) to do and what you mind says to do...

Wife is (should be) the favourite heroine of Husband.

Husband is (should be) the best friend of Wife.

I read somewhere:

“If you Love a Person you will love only that person and hate all others. But if you Love God, you will (can) love all others.”

“All things look beautiful to those who are in Love”. 

But I don't know why the above two sentences have become wrong in my case. 

When I didn’t love her I did not love anybody else.  But when I started love her, I started love all others also.

Nothing is looking beautiful to my eyes except “she”.

Once upon a time.... I was doing chat with a girl, who I know and like.  Our convesation was going on...  at some point of time our conversation diverted to about marriages.

I said some of our friends names and said they are married...

Then she asked, "When is yours?"

I replied, "Waiting for ideal one..."

She said, "All the best!".

I asked, "When is yours?"

She said, "Search is going on.  May be next year.".

I said, "All the best".

She replied, "thanks"

............

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I don't know what is my feeling on her.  But I felt sad when she said "All the best" to me.

(Instead of saying "All the best", I should have asked, "Which type of boy you want?" Then there might be a chance of knowing her taste.  But I didn't.)

I think this is the stupid chat I ever made (with a girl).

One day one customer had come and depositing cash into his account.  One of the notes was a soiled one (cut note). 

Our cashier: “We can not take this note, Sir”.

Customer: “Ye note, mera account me hee jaa rahaa hainaa? Kyaa problem hain? (It is going into my account only, isn’t it?  What’s the problem)”

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Our systems were not working one day.  One customer had come and asked, “Mera account me balance bathaavonaa” (Tell me my account balance).

Our colleague replied, “Sir Systems kaam nahee kar rahaa hain” (Sir, Our systems are not working).

Customer, “Unclear balance tho bathaado…” (Tell the unclear balance, at least)

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One day one Senior Citizen had come.  We were updating his passbook.  In between he asked one of our counter staff what is the rate of Sugar (or Dal.  I don’t remember exactly).  But our staff heard only the word rate and he replied, “Hamaaraa rate acha hai.  It is 10%” (Our rate is good.  It is 10%).

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One day one customer entered the branch very angrily and said, “You have sent a letter to me. Your printing is not at all good.  It is very small font.  I can not read it.  And you are stapling in two to three places on the envelope.  I was unable to remove it.  I want it in a big font and don’t staple next time.  Otherwise I will complain to Manager”.

If he is unable to read small font, and if he is unable to remove staples, is it our mistake?  Actually courier person stapled the envelope with their proof of delivery.

When I was a child I did not know how to mix rice with curry in the correct ratio. Some times I used to mix less curry with more rice and some times less rice with more curry etc.,  As a result it's taste was not good.

But when my mother was eating, she used to call me or I used to go to her and take the food.  That food was very tasty.  I thought she knew how to mix rice with curry in the correct ratio. I like very much to eat food mixed by my mother.

But when I ate food mixed by any other, I never got that taste. 

Is mixing of food and curry in the correct ratio the only reason behind that taste?  I don't think so.  I think mothers do not only mix the curry and food in the correct ratio, but they also add their Love to that food...

It is not possible to change the attitude by training.  e.g., Can we train a Cat and make it as a Tiger?  Not possible, isn't it?  It's mind set, body will not support it to be as a Tiger.

It may be possible in some cases to change the attitude by training but not in all cases and all times.

Management thinks that by giving training to employees, then can make them as how they want them to be.  But without selecting the proper persons to proper job, if they think that by giving training we can them like this like that... results will be worst.

Is there any use by making a dumb person to sit in a call centre?  Same way... without knowing the abilities of the person, management should not allocate jobs to the employees... Otherwise it will be like sending a person to swimming competition, who doesn't know swimming, to running who doesn't know running.

If the management thinks, if we throw him into water he will learn swimming, if we leave a dog behind him he will learn running.... the persons will......

Whenever we logout of Yahoo Messenger and login to our Mobile, the status message will be changed to " I'm on SMS ".

But once I have changed my status message manually to " I'm on SMS " without logging into my mobile and my friends though I am chating with them from my mobile...

Believe half what you see... Nothing what you heard....

A team will get success only when suitable persons are available for each job.

Let us consider a Cricket Team.  We can not ask Anil Kumble to go for batting at No.1 and expect a century from him.  We can not ask Sachin to  do fast bowling and get wickets.

Saching can do batting only well, not fast bowling.  Anil can do bowling well.  He can not do batting (well).

Some players are well in Slip fielding, some are good at boundary line, some are good at Wicket keeping.  If we ask them to do different works, the perfomance will be poor.

The captain or the vice captain should know to whom should allocate where.  And which job should be allocated to whom. 

If the team is formed only with batsmen or only with bowlers, or if THE JOB ALLOCATION IS NOT PROPER, they can not win.

If the team is formed like that means...it is the mistake of selection committee, captain and the wice captain.

This is applicable for any TEAM...

Ours is a Sunday working Bank branch.  No body in the branch likes to work on Sunday.  Everyone wants a half day on Saturday and a holiday on Sunday.  But because of management decision, they are not closing the sunday working and some staff are coming on sundays and working. 

They have a fear that if they close sunday working, customers will go away.  And they are telling some customers told them that if you close sunday working, we will close accounts. 

Do you think that becasue of Sunday working customers maintain a relationship with any Bank?

Do you think that because of Sunday working new accounts will come to banks?

Do you think that if the branch stops sunday working, customers will close their accounts and will go away?

Don't you think that the customers are threatening the branch?

When the entire world is taking holiday on Sundays (except some doctors, soldiers, police, etc.,) why should we work on sundays?

User 1: hi

User 2:hi

User 1: asl plz

User 2: 23 m Delhi

User 1: same here. bye

99% of chat conversations in chat rooms are like that.... and 100% of that 99% people chat only with opposite sex...