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One day what happened is....

I had two towels.  One I have given for washing.  After coming from the office in the evening, I got fresh up and searching for the second one.  I searched searched searched and got tired in searching for the towel and finally sat down and was thinking where has the second one gone to.

After thinking for a while i saw towards down and I found that I weared that second towel...

I laughed at myself that I am searching for what I weared....

Similar to the rule that "One person should have only ony Permanent Account Number (PAN)" Government should pass one more rule that "One person should have only one Cell phone number (SIM) on his / her name."

And trace the number by PAN or Unique ID (which is coming soon) and catch the persons who are using more than one SIM and punish them.

Otherwise, now a days it has become a fashion that maintaining more than one SIM card.  Because of these fellows we are running short of cell phone numbers; 9 series over; 8 series over; now we are using 7 series; very soon that will also over; and they are planning to increase the digits in mobile numbers from 10 to 11.  This is not the solution.  The solution is to pass the above rule and make it compulsory that "the person should compulsorily go the mobile shop and close the connection when he/she wants to take another connection when they moved from one state to another state."

There won't be any problem for the working people who will be given cell phones by their companies.  Because company SIMs will be in the name of the company and their personal SIM will be in personal name only.

If the customers say they use more thatn one SIM for different packages (SMS PACKAGE, ROAMING PACKAGE of different mobile providers), then system should be changed in such a way that all packages can be used in one SIM.  Anyway government is going to migrate to number portibility system.  It should be like that.....

Now only one team is playing on behalf of one country in International Cricket.  These are the draw backs in the current system:

1.As there are places for only 11 members in the team, other talended persons can not play International Cricket.  So they can not realize their wish.  Though they get chance to play in the national team, if it is very late, it won't be useful.

2.One team can not play Cricket throughout the year.

But if ICC and other countries Cricket Councils start more than one team on behalf on their countries (any number of teams.... even in tens of numbers), the follwing will be the uses:

1. Many cricketers will get chance to play the game in International level.

2.Cricket lovers will see lot of good games / good players.  Their talent will come up.

3. No need to bother about if one or two batsmen / bowlers in a team are not fit.

4.Cricket lovers can enjoy the cricket throughout the year, because always any one team of a country will be playing cricket with any one of the team of the other country.

Stil, it the cricket playing countries want, they may allow only team to play on behalf of one country, in major cups like World Cup etc.,  But allow all other teams to play in International level in all other tours.

Think about it!!!

I thougt of writing this post after reading the comment of vijay on my post "Caste communities".  He commented, "who will bother about caste when it is about to marry Aishwarya Rai".

Yes.  It is not only his opinion.  I have seen many of my friends and relatives who don't bother about caste when they get a girl, to marry, who is Beautiful or who has lot of money.

Many times I heard the following from the mouths of people (both parents and children):

"That girl is so beautiful and our boy liked her so much.  So we agreed for marriage even they are giving less money (dowry)"

"The girl is beautiful and our boy liked her so much.  So we agreed for marriage even they are not belongs to our Caste"

"That girl is so beautiful and our boy liked her so much.  So we agreed for marriage even though she is not well educated."

"The girl is neither beautiful not belongs to our caste. So we did not agree for our son's love."

"The girl is not beautiful and they are not ready to give high dowry also. So we did not proceed further."

"The girl is so beautiful.  So our boy agreed for marriage even she is not well educated."

"The girl is beautiful so he agreed for marriage with her even though she is not doing job."

"They agreed for this marriage even the boy/girl is not well educated / not beautiful / not having a good character because that boy / girl is son / daughter of ...some famous person who has a good status in society".

"I want a girl who is either beautiful or has lot of money."

"Why work do you have with our daughter-in-law's caste?  She is working in movies / TV.  She has a good status."

and lot of such examples..........

When money, beauty and status are taking major part in a person's personality, people won't bother about caste, dowry, education etc.,  Otherwise they will hang on to the same.

I don't understand the logic. They do not have a standard opinion.

So money, beauty and status etc., are the substitutes for caste, dowry and education etc., 

There are many persons in this society who marry / enters into a relationship without Love, but because of attraction at Beauty, Money, Status etc.,

I think the most powerful punishment we can give to anyone is "Ignoring".

Just ignore them.

Don't look at them.

Don't smile at them.

Don't talk to them.

Don't reply to them. 

Don't take care of them.

And they can not do anything about it.

"TEAM WORK", the word which most banks uses now a days very frequently to motivate the staff. But there are some points which they have to overcome.  Otherwise they can not win in the GAME of business.

Consider a Cricket Team players for example.  There will be some some batsmen, some bowlers, and some wicket keepers will be there.

Why are they doing so?  Their main intention is there shouldn't be all types of players.  Then only it will become a complete team and will be strong.

But in case of Banks, the management always tells about team work.  But they never give recruit all types of staff.  They always recruit same staff with same designation. It is leading to problems.

In cricekt we can not expect a batsman, who knows only batting, to do fast bowling.  Similarly you can not ask and expect  a bowleer who knows only bowling to do opening batting and to do a century.

Similarly in banks also all are not suitable for all types of jobs.  Some are good for General Banking, Some are at Marketing, Some are at Credit, Some are at IT etc.,

Banks has to recruit specialists for each post seperately.  But they are simply recruiting staff for General Banking and after that giving other works, which these staff can not do at all, like marketing, which requires special skills such as (i) Convincing people (ii) Continious talking etc.,

We know that "caste" is a logicless concept.  We are producing and watching movies about it.  We speak against it.  But still we are NOT doing what we CAN (to erase it from the society).  But doing what we should not do.

Here are some examples.

1.Creating and maintaining social networks in internet (like yahoo, google groups / orkut communites) caste wise / community wise.

When will these people change?

2.Adding caste name at the end of names.

Even educated persons are not stopping this culture.

3.Caste based census (by Government). 

I don't understand what is the Government's intention behind this.

4.Caste based reservations. 

When will we stop it?

5.Court's judgements: Courts are giving judgements like "father's caste should be applicable to children (in inter-caste marriages)".

When will courts act against this?

6.Not removing "caste" column in schools bio-data form.

Remove it atleast from this year so that future generations will not be spoiled.

7.Not removing sentences like..... "our country has so many castes but still we are united....." in school books.

First remove such sentences in books.

We should appreciate Amitab Bachan's family for acting against this and marrying people without bothering about the caste. When will others' learn from such people?

We blame shopkeepers for occupying footpaths.

We blame police for not removing the shopkeepers from footpaths.

We blame Gundas for supporting shopkeepers.

We blame our political leaders for not looking at this issue.

But WE DO NOT STOP BUYING THINGS AT FOOTPATHS.

The only solution to remove them is:

“Stop buying things from them.”

If we stop buying things at them they won't occupy and sit idle there.  Then we can walk on foot paths.  Then vehicles can move on roads fastly.

The business which is not rewarded will not continue.  They will automatically remove their shops and move from there.

Without our support police can not do anything.

I had gone to Lord Ganesh temple near to my office at Borivali along with my two colleagues.  We sat in the temple and talking.  Some girl and father were looking downside and searching for something...

Colleague 1: It seems she has lost her footwear. She is searching for that.

Colleague 2: No No.  She is searching for good footwear :-)

What's wrong with Bachelors?

House owner's dont give rooms on rent to them.  Do they think that all family men are good compared to bachelors? If yes, it's a non-sense. Actually speaking married men are very dangerous than bachelors. (depends)

Sometime someone might have done something wrong somewhere.  Since then these fellows are thinking that all Bachelors are of the same type. 

They are thinking that Prevention is better than Cure.

But we can not escape from the Karma.

I have seen people, who are having daughters, giving rooms on rent to bachelors, allowing bachelors as paying guests etc.,

Others should learn from them. 

Once upon a time the King of a kingdom requested all the people in the town to offer one pot of milk each.  He requested them to pour that milk in the big pot arranged in the middle of the city.

Everyone one thought, "All will give milk anyway.  We will just pour water.  Who is going to find?" and all poured water in the pot.

When the king checked the pot next day, it is full of water.  He understood that no one offered milk.  Then he again requested all to offer milk.  But the condition is they have to show the milk to the person appointed by king, before pour into the pot.

Then everyone offered milk.

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Then I asked my friend:

I: Do you understood what I want to say to you by this story?

He: No.

I: If your friend also thinks like you (I login in invisible mode, whenever my friends come online, I will chat), then you both will never chat online.  Because both will be in invisible mode only.

MORAL: Be always in visible mode.

One of my freind always used to login to Yahoo messenger in Invisible Mode.  I asked him, one day, why do you always login in invisible mode.  Then he said some reply, which I did not satisfied with.  I said the following story to him, after which he never login in invisible mode or as soon as as I login, he will come out of invisible mode.

Here is the story:

This judgement is like a slap to all, who made it a big issue about when Kushboo talked about pre-marital sex.  As I said earlier she is not responsible for these fellows' feellings.  They made road shows, complaints only because they do not have any other work and the food eaten by them is not digesting. I don't understand what is the pain to these people when a man and woman live together.  Thier lives... their wish... what's the problem to others?

Here is the judgement.  (main points in bold):

Live-in, pre-marital sex not an offence, observes court

I read this a few days back...“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take; but by the moments that take our breath away.”

Here is my first moment after that, happened tonight @ 09.59pm.

When I was speaking over phone she called me. As soon as I saw her name, my breath had gone away for a few seconds. I didn't believe my eyes for some time and I was just looking at her name. After a few seconds the call was cut. As soon as her name disappears on my mobile I had come out of my thoughts. Then I cut the first call and dialed her number and talked…and time of that first moment was 359 seconds. :-)

I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with some water and held it before me, and said this: "You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love."

This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to possess it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds. This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...they try to possess it, they demand, they expect... and just like the latter spilling out of your hand, love will retrace from you .

For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings.

1. Give and don't expect.

2. Advise, but don't order.

3. Ask, but never demand.

It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring."

Passing thought... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take; but by the moments that take our breath away....

 for others' feelings as their feelings depends on their mental status and their way of looking at things/incidents.

If someone feels bad or sad about our actions / words / behaviour / decisions, it is not our mistake at all.  It's completely their choice whether to think about us (negatively) and distrube thier mind or to leave it or take it positively.

As I read in a book, "We can actually hurt people only physically, but not psychologically".

e.g.,

There was a small tree beside the road at the end of the village.  One night: (a) one thief seen it while going on that route and thought that may be a police (b) one young boy seen it and thought that is his lover waiting there. and (c) a small boy seen it and though that may be a devil.

It is not the mistake of the tree at all for their feelings.

We often hear, "your father is feeling bad becoz you have done this / you have not done that", "he will feel bad if you won't attend his party / function", "it won't loook good if it happens like this".,   etc.,

Ignore all those words and do what you want (feel) to do and what you mind says to do...

Wife is (should be) the favourite heroine of Husband.

Husband is (should be) the best friend of Wife.

I read somewhere:

“If you Love a Person you will love only that person and hate all others. But if you Love God, you will (can) love all others.”

“All things look beautiful to those who are in Love”. 

But I don't know why the above two sentences have become wrong in my case. 

When I didn’t love her I did not love anybody else.  But when I started love her, I started love all others also.

Nothing is looking beautiful to my eyes except “she”.

One day one customer had come and depositing cash into his account.  One of the notes was a soiled one (cut note). 

Our cashier: “We can not take this note, Sir”.

Customer: “Ye note, mera account me hee jaa rahaa hainaa? Kyaa problem hain? (It is going into my account only, isn’t it?  What’s the problem)”

Our systems were not working one day.  One customer had come and asked, “Mera account me balance bathaavonaa” (Tell me my account balance).

Our colleague replied, “Sir Systems kaam nahee kar rahaa hain” (Sir, Our systems are not working).

Customer, “Unclear balance tho bathaado…” (Tell the unclear balance, at least)

It is not possible to change the attitude by training.  Can we train a Cat and make it as a Tiger?  Not possible, isn't it?  It's mind set, body will not support it to be as a Tiger.

It may be possible in some cases to change the attitude by training but not in all.

If management thinks that by giving training to employees, then can make them as how they want them to be, without selecting the proper persons to proper job, the results will be worst.

Is there any use by making a dumb person to sit in a call centre?  Same way... without knowing the abilities of the person, management should not allocate jobs to the employees... Otherwise it will be like sending a person to swimming competition, who doesn't know swimming, to running who doesn't know running.

Whenever we logout of Yahoo Messenger and login to our Mobile, the status message will be changed to " I'm on SMS ".

But once I have changed my status message manually to " I'm on SMS " without logging into my mobile and my friends though I am chating with them from my mobile...

Believe half what you see... Nothing what you heard....

A team will get success only when suitable persons are available for each job.

Let us consider a Cricket team.  We can not ask Anil Kumble to go for batting at No.1 and expect a century from him.  We can not ask Sachin to  do fast bowling and get wickets.

Saching can do batting only well, not fast bowling.  Anil can do bowling well.  He can not do batting (well).

Some players are well in Slip fielding, some are good at boundary line, some are good at Wicket keeping.  If we ask them to do different works, the perfomance will be poor.

The captain or the vice captain should know to what job should be allocated to whom.

If the team is formed only with batsmen or only with bowlers, or if THE JOB ALLOCATION IS NOT PROPER, they can not win.

If the team is formed like that means...it is the mistake of selection committee, captain and the wice captain.

This is applicable for any TEAM...

Ours is a Sunday working bank branch.  No one in the branch likes to work on Sunday.  All want half day on Saturday and holiday on Sunday.  But as per management decision, they are not closing the Sunday working and some staff are coming on sundays and working. 

Management has a fear that if they close the branch on Sundays, customers will migrate to some other sunday working bank.

You think that becasue of Sunday working, customers maintain a relationship with any Bank and new accounts will come?

You think that if the branch stops sunday working, customers will close their accounts and will go away?

When the entire world is taking holiday on Sundays (except some emergency services like doctors, soldiers, police, etc.,) why should we work on sundays?

Once, one of my friends wanted to find out the email address of a girl, who he loved.  She already married.  He knows her orkut URL through common friends and added her to his friends list.  But she did not approve his request. 

Then he have created a new orkut profile and put one of common friends' photo in that profile and then added her to his list through that new profile.  By seeing that photo she thought that that person was her friend and approved his request. Then he visited her profile and seen her email address.

Passing thought.... Believe half what you see and nothing what you heard.

User 1: hi

User 2:hi

User 1: asl plz

User 2: 23 m Delhi

User 1: same here. bye

99% of chat conversations in chat rooms are like that.... and 100% of that 99% people chat only with opposite sex...