Some people say not to message in odd hours.
Don't understand why don't they switch off internet connection at odd hours or change notification settings to silent.
Some people say not to message in odd hours.
Don't understand why don't they switch off internet connection at odd hours or change notification settings to silent.
friend : "did you ever had candle light dinner?"
me : yes. i had many times.
friend : when?
me : in my childhood... in my native... when there was power cut in home during nights... we used to have dinner in candle light... :-)
I went to see my colleague's marriage recently.
But most of the time, could not see the couple properly though I sat in the front row.
Reason is boy's friends are standing before us and talking to boy and are smiling at each other and they are taking photos and videos with thier cell phones. So our view is blocked.
Not only boy's friends, some elders (may be couple's relatives) also stood along with them and watching the marraige very closely and proving that they have so much of love and affection on the couple.
Please don't block other's view. Just sit along with others and watch the marriage. You should have some common sense that when you stand there, others can not see the marraige.
They completely ignored the fact that there are other people who had come to see the marraige, especially the beautiful scene of Mangalya Dharana. During Mangalya Dharana, we, the first row people stood up to see the couple, then second row, then almost all rows.
And one more thing many people have to remember is, please don't try to proove that you are good photographers :-). Couple's parents have already arranged seperate photographers for that job, who are professionals. They will do their job. You guys can collect photos later from them. But please don't stand in front of us and dont' block the view. Don't try to take photos to post the same in face book and to share with colleagues, who have not attended the marriage, on the same day. Even if you want to take photos, do that after marriage over.
And many people are talking to each other whether they are fine, their kids are fine etc., etc., etc., I don't understand why can't they talk all these non-sense after the marriage got finished. Because of them, I was unable to listen the mantras. People should sit silently during the marriage and watch it so that all can listen mantras and enjoy that silence.
"We broke up...", she said this line once again about her and her boy friend relation.
He heard it many times earlier. That time his feelings were different towards her. This time it is different. That time she was just a friend to him. But this time he is thinking to marry her.
When she said she broke up with her boy friend, and she is not at all happy with him, he thought that he can make her as his life partner and take good care of her forever.
The same day he expressed his feelings to her. She said she is not in a position to think of it and indirectly said a no. And he did not convince her (convincing is nothing but begging and as Trivikram said in "Jalsa", he is not a salesman to Convince).
But after a few days again she started talking to her boy friend, and he came to know that she said with that frequently "broke-up" boyfriend that he proposed her.
He didn't understand what is the need of meeting him after brake up.
If it's really not a brake up, why the hell to tell others that they broke up...
నీ తియ్యని మాటాలని, నీ మువ్వల సవ్వడిని వింటూ...
నిన్ను నవ్విస్తూ... నీ నవ్వులను చూస్తూ...
నీతో కలసి బ్రతకాలనుకుంటున్నాను.
It was 20th century…..86th year…..august month (avani maasam, kaar kaalam)… english calendar was showing the date as 10...
In a city, in land of temples, which is located at 8.7300° N, 77.7000° E geographical coordinates on the west bank of the Thamirabarani river, a beautiful baby girl came out of her mother’s womb with so many “dreams” in her mind which she wanted to accomplish on this planet earth in this birth.
She is beautiful like goddess parvathi and her parents gave her a name which means goddess parvathi. Lord shiva is there in the city in the name of Nellaiappar and has been taking good care of her and protecting her since her child good.
Very lately that beautiful girl realized that she did not ask God for a right place and this is not as beautiful place as she imagined before she was coming to earth.
After completion of her education, she wanted to work as software engineer in big MNCs like any other girl. But the parents did not agree for the same as she will be away from their native state and will be away from the known ones. She they did not agree for the same and finally she joined a private organization, in the same state, where she can not apply any knowledge, which brought her an Aurum medal, which learned in her college.
So, dream 1 is not realized.
She wants to go to restaurants with her female friends and have fun. But, that also big mistake in the eyes of people in her place and they asked her mom for the same and finally that freedom also stopped. She used to feel that there was no freedom in her native but in the capital we can have sufficient freedom and no one cares what others are doing. Sometimes I used to feel why there will not be any freedom to people who are decent and good nature, but there will be lot of freedom to people who are out of control.
Dream 2 also not realized much
The biggest dream for any girl in her life….marrying a person who she loves… She wrote so many dreams in her diary which she wanted to accomplish with her loved one after her marriage with him. I used to wonder about her creative thinking.
But elders torn and fired all her dreams and brought someone else into her life. And finally that dream also not realized.
I don’t know why parents do not understand children’s dreams and allow them to accomplish the same. They dream always for their children and never allow children to dream. Even after watching movies like “Santosh Subramaniam”, they are not changing.
I wish her partner should understand her and win her heart with his love, affection and patience like Mohan in “Mauna Raagam” movie, and make all her dreams become true.
Husband: Do you have a book, "Man, The Master of Woman"?.
Sales Girl: The fiction department is on the other side sir.
Few months back my house owner asked me to vacate room as his son’s marriage settled and they need that room to stay the couple.
I was searching for a new house and house owner introduced me the broker he knows.
That broker showed me many houses and I did not like any.
Then one day that broker tired and came to our house.
My house called me and asked, “Which type of house you want?”
I replied, “Like the one where I am staying now!!!!”
Then he shocked & smiled at me and said,
“See Arjun, I will tell you one story. You know Lord Vinayaka, don’t you? When his parents asked him which type of girl you want to marry (i.e., what qualities required in girl), he said “I want a girl who is "exactly" like my mom, Parvathi”.
His parents searched everywhere in the universe but they could not find a girl who is "exactly" like Parvathi. Because no one else exists "exactly" like Parvathi… and he is still Bachelor :-)
So Arjun what I am telling is…. “Don’t look for a house "exactly" like this. See the houses available…. Select a good one among them and shift….””
I got a very good laugh early in the morning on that day… and after a few days I got a house and shifted to that one.
Many happy returns of the day my dear,
May all your dreams come true this year,
Keep smiling like this forever,
Reach top heights in film industry like never,
Before you get retire,
So that people will remember you forever,
Happy Birthday Kajal :-)
After a long time and first time in Chennai I cooked "Dal" in my room on last Sunday.
But what happened is, while doing tempering, I used Cumin seeds (Jeera), I used soap (which tastes sweet). As a result its taste was entirely different and I could not eat it properly. Then again I separated all that seeds and had lunch.
Actually while buying it, I got doubt whether it is Jeera or Soap. But I did not ask super market persons by thinking they don’t know Hindi, English or Telugu except Tamil.
And while cutting the packet in home also i got sweet smell and i got doubt.
And finally while using it also I got doubt but did not care as I was very hungry and in hurry...
And while eating it my doubt got fully cleared :-)
When I said it to my sisters-in-law, they laughed like anything...
Aim in life should be 654321:
6 digit salary,
5 working days,
3 BHK flat,
2 cute children and
1 sweet heart...!!!
One day all staff in our branch were ordering Coffee / Tea for them. I wanted milk, so I called that boy and asked, "What is the cost of one glass milk?"
He: I don't know.
I: You work in that shop only, aren't you?
I: Still don't you know?
I (with my colleagues): He doesn't have "product knowlege"... :-)
By keeping hope in the words of David Frost, "Don't aim for success if you want it. Just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally", I am writing this.
There are three reasons to write this to you.
I think... I love you.
I read somewhere, "If you love anyone, just tell that person that you love him/her. To love you in return or not it is upto him/her. But they should know that you love him/her."
As said by one of my friends, after ten years I should not feel, "Atleast I should have tried".
Invitation: a request (spoken or written) to participate or be present or take part in something;
The main purpose of "invitation" is to convey the message. It can be in any form, oral, written, electronic etc., But many people do not attend many functions by saying the following reasons:
1.They have not invited me/us by coming personally.
What difference does it makes? It is nothing but wastage of money and time. You are just showing your ego.
2.They have not sent me even a inviation card. Just said over phone... that too when I called them.
Why do you want card? Are you deaf? Can't you hear? Sending invitation by cards is wastage of paper and trees. They might be thinking to call you... in between you called them and they conveyed the message. What's wrong in it.
3.They send me a cheap quality invitation card.
Why do you want the quality? What difference does the quality makes? By saying the above words, we came to know that you do not have any qualities...
4.They did not write my name in the event organizers (in case of marriage invitations; especially).
Do you work only for name? Why do you want publicity or recognization? Just do your work and leave the rest to God (Karmayoga :-) ).
What a non-sense, isn't it?
I have seen some people who goes to their relatives PERSONALLY to give CARD. Why both PERSON and CARD? I could not understand. Just to satisfy the "ego" of relatives?
In these cases, friends are better than relatives. They will just come with a phone call.
If you have real love on the person / family who has invited you, you should attend the function even if they invite by email / sms / through another person. The main purpose is whether you are invited or not.
Sometimes they may forget you(r name) to invite. Some times it happens. If you came to know about the function through others, then may call them and ask and attend it.
It all depends on the persons mentality.
We know that "caste" is a logicless concept. We are producing and watching movies about it. We speak against it. But still we are NOT doing what we CAN (to erase it from the society). But doing what we should not do.
Here are some examples.
1.Creating and maintaining social networks in internet (like yahoo, google groups / orkut communites) caste wise / community wise.
When will these people change?
2.Adding caste name at the end of names.
Even educated persons are not stopping this culture.
3.Caste based census (by Government).
I don't understand what is the Government's intention behind this.
4.Caste based reservations.
When will we stop it?
5.Court's judgements: Courts are giving judgements like "father's caste should be applicable to children (in inter-caste marriages)".
When will courts act against this?
6.Not removing "caste" column in schools bio-data form.
Remove it atleast from this year so that future generations will not be spoiled.
7.Not removing sentences like..... "our country has so many castes but still we are united....." in school books.
First remove such sentences in books.
We should appreciate Amitab Bachan's family for acting against this and marrying people without bothering about the caste. When will others' learn from such people?
I had gone to Lord Ganesh temple near to my office at Borivali along with my two colleagues. We sat in the temple and talking. Some girl and father were looking downside and searching for something...
Colleague 1: It seems she has lost her footwear. She is searching for that.
Colleague 2: No No. She is searching for good footwear :-)
What's wrong with Bachelors?
House owner's dont give rooms on rent to them. Do they think that all family men are good compared to bachelors? If yes, it's a non-sense. Actually speaking married men are very dangerous than bachelors. (depends)
Sometime someone might have done something wrong somewhere. Since then these fellows are thinking that all Bachelors are of the same type.
They are thinking that Prevention is better than Cure.
But we can not escape from the Karma.
I have seen people, who are having daughters, giving rooms on rent to bachelors, allowing bachelors as paying guests etc.,
Others should learn from them.
This judgement is like a slap to all, who made it a big issue about when Kushboo talked about pre-marital sex. As I said earlier she is not responsible for these fellows' feellings. They made road shows, complaints only because they do not have any other work and the food eaten by them is not digesting. I don't understand what is the pain to these people when a man and woman live together. Thier lives... their wish... what's the problem to others?
Here is the judgement. (main points in bold):
Live-in, pre-marital sex not an offence, observes court
Reserves judgment on actor Kushboo's petition
“When two adult people want to live together what is the offence? Does it amount to an offence? Living together is not an offence. It cannot be an offence,” observed a Bench of Chief Justice K.G. Balakrishnan and Justices Deepak Verma and B.S. Chauhan.
The court said even Lord Krishna and Radha lived together according to mythology.
The Bench said there was no law which prohibited a live-in relationship or pre-marital sex.
The court was reserving judgment on a special leave petition filed by actor Kushboo seeking to quash 22 criminal cases filed against her after she allegedly endorsed pre-marital sex in interviews to various magazines in 2005.
The judges grilled counsel for some of the complainants and repeatedly stressed that the perceived immoral activities could not be branded an offence.
Counsel argued that her comments would adversely affect the minds of young people leading to decay in moral values and country's ethos.
“Please tell us what is the offence and under which Section. Living together is a right to life,” the court said, apparently referring to Article 21 which grants right to life and liberty as a Fundamental Right.
The Bench further said the views expressed by Kushboo were personal. “How does it concern you? We are not bothered. At the most it is a personal view. How is it an offence? Under which provision of the law?” The court asked the complainants to produce evidence to show if any girl eloped from her home after the said interview.
“How many homes have been affected, can you tell us,” the Bench asked while enquiring whether the complainants had daughters. When the response was in the negative, they shot back, “Then, how are you adversely affected?”
Kushboo approached the Supreme Court after the Madras High Court in 2008 dismissed her plea for quashing the criminal cases filed against her throughout Tamil Nadu. — PTI
for others' feelings as their feelings depends on their mental status and their way of looking at things/incidents.
If someone feels bad or sad about our actions / words / behaviour / decisions, it is not our mistake at all. It's completely their choice whether to think about us (negatively) and distrube thier mind or to leave it or take it positively.
As I read in a book, "We can actually hurt people only physically, but not psychologically".
There was a small tree beside the road at the end of the village. One night: (a) one thief seen it while going on that route and thought that may be a police (b) one young boy seen it and thought that is his lover waiting there. and (c) a small boy seen it and though that may be a devil.
It is not the mistake of the tree at all for their feelings.
We often hear, "your father is feeling bad becoz you have done this / you have not done that", "he will feel bad if you won't attend his party / function", "it won't loook good if it happens like this"., etc.,
Ignore all those words and do what you want (feel) to do and what you mind says to do...
Wife is (should be) the favourite heroine of Husband.
Husband is (should be) the best friend of Wife.
I read somewhere:
“If you Love a Person you will love only that person and hate all others. But if you Love God, you will (can) love all others.”
“All things look beautiful to those who are in Love”.
But I don't know why the above two sentences have become wrong in my case.
When I didn’t love her I did not love anybody else. But when I started love her, I started love all others also.
Nothing is looking beautiful to my eyes except “she”.
One day one customer had come and depositing cash into his account. One of the notes was a soiled one (cut note).
Our cashier: “We can not take this note, Sir”.
Customer: “Ye note, mera account me hee jaa rahaa hainaa? Kyaa problem hain? (It is going into my account only, isn’t it? What’s the problem)”
Our systems were not working one day. One customer had come and asked, “Mera account me balance bathaavonaa” (Tell me my account balance).
Our colleague replied, “Sir Systems kaam nahee kar rahaa hain” (Sir, Our systems are not working).
Customer, “Unclear balance tho bathaado…” (Tell the unclear balance, at least)
Osho: Love and Friendliness
It is something to be understood: the girlfriend you get or the boyfriend you get, you deserve. You don’t get any boyfriend or girlfriend whom you don’t deserve; those kinds of relationships only last for one or two days.
The other person has to be different, distant, a mystery that invites you to explore. With two mysteries meeting together, once they drop the idea that they have to agree on everything, there is no question of any fight. The fight arises because you want agreement.
Harmony is not something very great, it is boring. Once in a while, even if you fight, once in a while even if you get really hot, that does not mean that love disappears; that simply means love is capable of absorbing even disagreements, fights, overcoming all these hindrances.
Love has to be a friendly affair in which nobody is superior, in which nobody is going to decide about things, in which both are fully aware that they are different, that there approach towards life is different, that they think differently, and still, with all these differences, they love each other.
Be human, accept the other person’s humanity with all the frailty humanity is prone to. Your partner will commit mistakes just as you commit mistakes, and you have to learn. To be together is a great learning: of forgiving, forgetting, understanding that the other is as human as you are. Just a little forgiveness.
Out of freedom meet with each other, and the moment you feel that you have explored the whole topography of the woman and the woman knows that she has experienced whatever is possible to experience in the man, then it is time to say good-bye to each other in deep friendliness. There is no need to hang around each other’s neck. A world completely free from any contracts between man and woman will be immensely lovely, beautiful, unboring, interesting.
If you are just friendly and don’t make your friendliness a legal affair of husband and wife, things will be far better because then you are not a burden to anybody, not a bondage. There will be no question of having to fit with each other. You can have your individuality totally free from each other, and yet be in love. And really to be totally different in your individuality creates the best possibility of love.